The Definition of a Journey

Weight loss journeys suck…there, I said it. They are hard, discouraging, exciting, encouraging, tempting, educating, and all of this usually at the same time. Now that I’m doing this “all by myself” with no weight loss surgeries or international weight loss reality shows, I’m learning so much more about myself, and why it’s been so hard to keep the weight off.

Of course I want it to go faster. Of course I don’t want to reach goals, only for there to be weight gain the next day. But that’s why they call it a “journey.” If you look at the definitions of journey one says a journey is “A process or course likened to traveling, such as a series of trying experiences; a passage.” I loved the words TRYING EXPERIENCES. It doesn’t say “a clear path with no obstacles and a quick arrival”, but yet it clarifies by saying a “series” of experiences…good and bad.

There have been triumphant times so far on this new journey, and there have been “trying experiences” but instead of giving in (which I still have at times) I’m starting to learn that these times are the most important times, to learn, to reflect, and to move on with no guilt or shame pulling you back into destructive behavior any longer than necessary.

I’ve lost 200 lbs once in my life, and I’m on the journey of doing it all over again. I’m only about 10% down that road, but I’ve learned a few things this time that I hadn’t the first time around. There are a few key things that I have learned about myself so far that hopefully will help you on this crazy journey we call “weight loss.”

My Top 3 Lessons I’ve Learned So Far:

1. Making mistakes, and giving into temptation doesn’t mean you’re a failure; it means you’re learning. As long as you get back up and keep trying, it’s just as much of a success.

2. I will never be able to “have just one” or “have just a little.” I know that about myself now and need to guard myself from tempting situations.

3. Discouragement and stress are my number one triggers to binge. If I don’t see the fruits of my labors each week, my urge to binge sky rockets. Some times I make it through, and sometimes I don’t. But I’m working on fighting that temptation each time and getting better at it.

This journey is far from over, and I love that I can share with you how truly difficult it is, even for someone who’s done it all before. We will get there…I will get there…with help from our support systems, and being gentle with ourselves along the way.

If you have lessons you’ve learned, or things that have helped you on your journey, I’d love to hear about it in the comments below!

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Starting over sucks, but it’s not impossible!

After taking a little hiatus during a transition period in my life, I’m so excited to be back and able to share with everyone my “Life After Loser.” It’s been rough this past year or so, but I’m ready to start over and hope my journey is encouraging to you!

I’ve been very candid about the fact that I’ve gained a lot of weight since the show. Do I take responsibility for that…yes, do I blame some unhealthy habits I learned during the show for making it harder for me to lose weight long term…yes. The thing I have realized years after standing on that Biggest Loser stage though, is that no matter the reasons or circumstances that made me gain this weight back, I have to take care of it whether I think it’s fair or not.

I don’t want to start off my new chapter on a negative note, and that’s what I love about the quote, “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.” The past is the past, and I’m so ready to look forward to feeling happy and healthy again.

I’ve learned tons of lessons these past couple years as I’ve striven to get back to this point of being able to encourage others (and myself) again, and I’m looking forward to sharing those with you too! I’ve began eating differently, looking at exercise differently, and realizing that the mental badgering we put ourselves through eventually will rear it’s ugly head, and asking for help with pushing through and dealing with those things isn’t weakness, it actually takes a lot of strength.

I hope you can look at this blog as more than just healthy recipes, workouts, and videos, but in addition to those things look at it as a safe place of encouragement when the health journey doesn’t go exactly how you planned and find support in others who are on this journey with you! We are a community wanting to cheer each other on…and I’ll be the first one to do it 🙂

So let’s say goodbye to the past and all the excuses, reasons, heart break, and negativity RIGHT NOW! Today is page one of the next chapter and I’m excited to see your growth and transformations.  I’m looking froward to sharing mine with you too!

So let’s get started!

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Why Not Weighing Myself Was The BEST Decision I Ever Made

UnknownHere’s how you know your mind is finally relearning a few things about a realistic and positive weight loss journey…

Yesterday I was at Tucson Bariatric for an appt that had nothing to do with surgery or weight loss…long story…anyway, the Dr. asks as I’m leaving, “would you like to step on the scale while you’re here?” and I emphatically said “NO…I’m good :)” [Read more…]

Seven Weeks & Four Epiphanies …

So now that I’m at the seven week mark of this new journey I think it’s time for some reflection. Have I been perfect…no. Have I learned a lot…yes. But let’s be real; if we could all start something and stick to it perfectly our lives would be a heck of a lot easier. See, there’s these little things called “bad habits”, “addictions”, and “temptations.” The journey to a healthier lifestyle isn’t always about food prep and workouts, sometimes that’s the easiest part. It’s about learning why you got off track to begin with. What are your weaknesses, strengths, and bad habits that need to be broken. Until you can figure that out, you will ALWAYS make your way back to that low point whether its a couple months, or in my case a couple years later. Here’s what I’ve learned these last seven weeks…

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A Mind & Body On Different Pages

Well my first month is done and over and I’m feeling good…not great. Did I lose a big chunk of weight this month, yes, am I frustrated that I’m already plateauing in week 4, yes. I’ve followed my plan, returned to my fave workout and yet I didn’t lose a pound this week.

Even though it’s totally frustrating, I’m not going to stop. I’ve learned that the body will fight to keep weight on. It will fight to stay in it’s “comfort zone” and there are little periods of time through out the journey when it will just stop doing the logical thing and fights to keep the weight on. It’s like playing chicken with your metabolism…who’s gonna give in first.  [Read more…]